As women, girls, and people who exist on the feminine side of the bogus gender binary, we are always taught we must avoid rape, and we’re always given tips on how to do so. These tips don’t acknowledge that sexual violence happens to people of all genders, they place the onus on us to stop rape and they don’t keep us safe either. Hopefully the tips shared here will be a little more useful in surviving rape culture than holding your keys in between your knuckles as you walk to your car.
Unfortunately predators aren’t given the same constant education on how to avoid raping. We must be responsible for ourselves because we know that while we are constantly taught to control ourselves or risk being violated, they aren’t taught the same thing. In fact, their behavior is encouraged and looked at as being assertive and going after what they want.
Why is it that when we feel the most vulnerable is when we are most at risk of being attacked? Why do our chances of being raped increase exponentially once we’ve been raped once? It’s because once that experience has become part of our vibrational reality it becomes a possibility in our conscious mind. It’s because predators have a sixth sense that tells them who to target, and they can spot a victim when they see one. Since their sixth sense for choosing victims is overdeveloped, so too must we develop our senses to avoid being victimized. We must find ways to release the experience of sexual violence from the fabric of our consciousness on a multidimensional mind, body and soul level.
The truth is that all the things we’ve been taught on how to avoid being raped were lies. If they really worked we wouldn’t have the epidemic of “Me too” that is currently trending all over the internet. If someone bigger and stronger than us wants to attack us, having our keys in between our fingers isn’t going to stop them. Avoiding strangers doesn’t save us from rape in a world where most of us are victimized by those closest to us. Wearing conservative clothing won’t protect us, ask my Muslim sisters. Attempting to live by these stringent moral codes imposed on us by the patriarchy won’t keep us safe. All they do is make rape our problem to deal with, instead of everybody’s problem.